It is anathema to me to go after “success at any cost”. I don’t know about you but I want to be a better person as I achieve more. I pray that my integrity will always be worth more to me than any potential “success”.
For me at least to achieve position, power or wealth at the cost of my character would really signify my failure.
I just don’t buy the lie that you have to be selfish to get anywhere. I don’t for a second believe that you need to squash others on the way up. The people I admire most in this world are focused on serving. On seeing a bigger picture and making the world a better place. They are kind, generous and deeply connected with their world and the relationships they have. Regardless of any financial or other indicators of their ‘success’, they are rich in themselves, and that’s the sort of person I want to be.
What about you?
Who do you want to be? What values matter to you? Would you trade your character or values for success?
There will ALWAYS be opportunities, at any level, to sacrifice our integrity- whether that’s accessing a course using credentials we didn’t pay for, back-stabbing a competitor, or not giving credit where it’s due.
At ANY level, there will be the option – often quite inviting- to do things or go along with things that don’t feel completely right.
Yet who do we want to become? In the pursuit of goals, we’re going to change and grow. What we grow into is going to be honed by the choices we make along the way, large and small.
Now, to be clear, I’m NOT talking about mistakes. We’ll all make those. Lots of them. We’ll all screw up and we’ll all fail. That’s part of being human and getting out there to do anything.
What I’m talking about is doing our human, fallible best to look ahead. To see who we want to become, and make decisions that align with that.
It may mean standing up and saying ‘enough’ or walking away from some things or people, but that will also free up time/space/energy for the things you need and the new people who’ll help you go further. That’s ok, it’s what happens when we grow- just like when our family grows, we may need to move to a bigger home.
The way I view it is that it’s not just about me. For starters, I have two girls, and niece and a nephew that see how I behave. I want any behaviours they “catch” from me to be good ones. Ones I can be proud to see them learn from me.
Changing the question
Rather than just looking at where you want to get to, I want to challenge you to have a think about who you want to become en route? Who do you want to be when you get there?
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